You are always an influence, for good or bad. Your actions have effects, some you notice and many that you don't notice. The effects of our actions are like ripples in a pond. The influence of our actions can spread very far, and combine with other's ripples for greater effect.
Many times though, we don't look at the ripples to see what's happening. What we do is take the rock's perspective. The rock gets thrown in the water and sinks to the bottom. The rock thinks, "Well, that was anti-climatic. All this talk about ripples going out affecting others, and all I see is that I sunk down to the bottom under the water. Humph. Guess I'll just sit here." The rock doesn't get to see the effects of its drop to the bottom.
I've had many people that have affected my life, but they don't know that, and they never will. Some have had a positive effect, some a negative, but I learned from them all.
I've had people tell me they've noticed things about me, and I didn't think they ever gave me a second thought. People don't usually spend a lot of time thinking about you, but a small moment can make a big difference.
Remember, what you do, how you dress, what you say, how you act- it all sends a message. The absence of these actions sends messages too.
I would like to have my ripples be ripples of love, acceptance, and kindness. Even if I don't see the end results, I know that having a good affect on people results in good things. I don't aspire to fame or the spotlight, but I would like to be remembered in a positive light, even if I'm only ever looking up from the bottom of the pond.