It can be so satisfying to actually have the witty sarcastic comeback at just the right moment. The cringe on the face of the enemy, the flattened ego of the proud, the triumph of winning an argument.
But is it an actual win? Depends on how you look at it. Yes, you came out victorious with the last word in the moment, but what lasting impression did you leave?
There is a proverb, "A soft answer turneth away wrath." Does it always happen immediately? No, but eventually the meek will inherit the earth, the proud will be knocked to their knees. Love will always conquer in the end. Anger, guilt, terror, abuse, intimidation, and the intentional infliction of pain will bring immediate results, but also lasting negative consequences.
Those who lead out of love will always be remembered with a happy thought. Those who have a kind word will be remembered with love. In the dark times, the good words and deeds done to a person are the saving graces, the redeeming moments.
As tempting as it is to have the last word, to get in a good jab, to always put in your unwanted two cents, or to think your opinion is what they need to hear, it is usually best to put forth a humble attitude instead.
Let the memories of what you said be positive, not words that will act as cankers on the soul. Practice restraint and keep your mouth shut when you know you should. You will be a better person and have better relationships.
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