Making resolutions to keep for the new year is admirable, but forced change doesn't usually work, which is why most people break their resolutions before a month is up and stop working on them. Change only works if you are ready and if you are doing it for you.
Temporary change is doable, but it is temporary. Like eating healthy during pregnancy for your child, but after the child is born it tends to slip because it's not necessary anymore. Eating healthy to prevent disease or manage a health condition is for you, so it can become a permanent change, albeit a difficult one. Some people start out eating healthy for their unborn child and continue it after the child is born because it became about them personally- they liked the benefits of eating healthy.
Change is very hard, and you will likely mess up more than once. That doesn't mean you didn't make it or you can stop, it just means you keep going and learn from your mistakes. If you mess up, shake it off and keep going.
Karen Lamb said, "A year from now you will wish you had started today." That is often the case when we make positive changes in our lives. The truth of it is that we weren't ready a year ago though, or we would have done it then. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom and dragging your feet around the bottom for a while before you are ready to change.
When making resolutions, be it for the new year or any time, remember a couple things.
-Make realistic goals with small achievable steps.
-Make goals that are for you so that you can make permanent changes.
-Be honest: make goals that you are ready to make. If you're not ready, you won't make it.
-Keep working, even if you make a mistake, it's part of the journey to becoming a new you.
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