Thursday, April 25, 2013

One Person, That's All - Take One

Recently I watched The Giant Mechanical Man on recommendation from my Mom, and I really liked it. There's a part in the movie where a side character says something that defined what I've been thinking about. She said something to the effect of: 'It only takes just one person to make you feel special and valid, like you belong.'

She was talking about her husband, and I feel the same way about my husband. Why do two people meet and after knowing each other for such a short time comparatively, decide to get married?

Think of all the people you know, especially those you've known for years. Why did you not marry them? Why did you choose your spouse? What made your spouse stand out so much from any other person?

Most people can list of the wonderful attributes of their spouse: nice, fun, smart, funny, hard worker, friendly, good looking, etc... but that list can be applied to so many people.

The reason we chose our spouse over all the others is because besides all the other general characteristics, there was a special sense of emotional intimacy that is unique to the relationship. That one person makes you feel special and valid, like you belong with them. It's a wonderful feeling called love.

From Wikipedia on different types of love: -Agape means love in modern-day Greek. It generally refers to a "pure," ideal type of love, rather than the physical attraction suggested by eros. It has also been translated as "love of the soul." -Eros is passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. Although eros is initially felt for a person, with contemplation it becomes an appreciation of the beauty within that person.

I think that spouse love is a mix of agape and eros. There's a special eros love with just the one person that combines with the agape to create a beautiful marriage. It makes you stop and stare in wonder at your spouse and think just how lucky you are to have them. It makes your heart beat faster when you know you are going to see your spouse after a long day. It's the comfort of being in each other's arms. It's what Rascal Flatts calls 'Everyday Love', and I just can't get enough of it.

My husband is my best friend, my spouse, my other half that makes me whole, the one who I belong with, and I love him.


  1. Beautifully put and I'm very grateful to have this love in my life :)

  2. You definitely have a great guy!